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Our Love Story (Her Version)
If I could use just one word to describe Ebenezer (My Benny), it would be princely. To know him as I do is to witness the magnificent, noble, generous, and dignified spirit he beautifully embodies. But just calling him "princely" hardly scratches the surface, he's truly everything, all at once. When we first started talking, the thought that it could blossom into this felt totally unbelievable. Never in a million years did I imagine I'd be here, about to marry someone like Eben, let alone writing our love story for our wedding website. Yet, here I am, blissfully lost in this dream.
From the moment Ben and I first connected, I knew he was different. The way he introduced himself, the thoughtful way he asked about my life, I could feel he was taking this more seriously than even a 6-figure job interview. So, naturally, I decided to treat our getting-to-know-each-other phase like the most rigorous interview process of all time.
I put him through the wringer, in the best ways, in my opinion. I made him do a workbook of 101 questions, a 30-day devotional with deep discussion questions, and even a relationship app that forced us to bravely tackle the hard conversations early on. My one playful caveat for Eben was this: if I didn't like any of his answers, I was dropping him, no hesitation. As you can clearly see now, with a wedding on the horizon, he certainly aced every challenge. His profound emotional understanding, his spiritual intelligence in the things of God, and his unwavering honesty and transparency didn't just draw me in; they pulled me closer and closer.
We met right at the beginning of my last semester of medical school, and looking back, I can only see God's perfect hand in our timing, in our meeting. He didn't just ask me on dates; he planned extravagant, intentional experiences that felt like they were plucked straight from my deepest desires. And what truly captured my heart was that he never once held back the truth of his feelings for me, openly sharing how they grew and blossomed into the most beautiful love I'd ever known. It was then that I truly melted, knowing without a doubt that this was it, and he was absolutely everything I had unknowingly prayed for.
Ebenezer’s unwavering support through the chaos of my final medical school semester was nothing short of miraculous. His constant encouragement, his playful acts, his joyful celebration of every tiny victory, they solidified every feeling I had for him. He remembered every detail, big or small, from the exact date of my grueling exams to sending me flowers on graduation day, even from Ghana, brightening my busy days with thoughtful gestures and calls.
Ben doesn't just check every box for me; he checks the ones I didn't even realize I needed.
Every single conversation with him brings me more peace, happiness, and joy than I've ever felt in any other relationship. It's a feeling I want to hold onto, forever, with him. I think the most beautiful part of our story is how effortlessly our personalities blend, how we make each other feel more and more like our true, most authentic selves every single day. He makes me better in every way imaginable, and truly, he is my home.
He is my confidant, my best friend, and the incredible man I am deeply, joyfully committed to spending the rest of my life with. I love you, babes! Let's get MARRIED!!
Our Love Story (His Version)
I never saw her coming, this love, this miracle, not in a million lifetimes. If someone had told me that I’d be getting married this year, that I’d be here writing our love story, I honestly wouldn’t have believed it. I was quietly broken, on the outside I was functioning, smiling even, but on the inside, I was hurting. I was alive, but I wasn’t really living. The idea of being in a relationship felt so far away, almost impossible.
Love for me had become a distant idea, something I had stopped reaching for. I had come to a place where I genuinely believed that if I was ever going to get married, it wouldn’t be because I found something beautiful, It would be me settling. Choosing companionship over connection, I had made peace with the idea that maybe genuine love, the kind that feels like home, that sees you and holds space for you just wasn’t written in my story. So I stopped looking, I stopped hoping, my mother and sister kept complaining and wondering why, at a point they were scared I was never going to get married. But deep down, something in me still reached for God.
On December 31st, 2023, as the year came to a close, I wrote a prayer request, one of those private, quiet resolutions no one else sees. And in it, I told God: “If it is Your will, bless me with a wife, someone You’ve chosen for me.” It wasn’t just a request, it was a surrender. I was tired of trying on my own, so I left it in God’s hands. Now this is the crazy and funny thing, I went through all of 2024 and by December absolutely nothing had happened, not a single “hello” that sparked anything, not even a vague sign that something was on the horizon. I remember laughing to myself and thinking, “Well, I guess it’s time to write another prayer request for 2025.” I had even started forming the words in my head, something like: “Dear God, I know You’re busy, but just circling back on that wife request.”
At the point of me thinking it’s not happening that year, then Lovely showed up in the most unexpected way, not the idea of the love I had compromised on in my mind. She came quietly but her presence was loud in my life, lol everyone could tell something had changed. A woman handpicked by God, my safe place, my answered prayer. I remember holding on to her contact, debating whether to message her or not, I almost didn’t. I thought it would be just another casual conversation that would fade into nothing. Days passed, but something in me wouldn’t let it go, and finally, I gathered the courage to send her a message.
That single moment, hitting “send” changed everything. I had no idea that what started as a funny, slightly crazy text on that ordinary day would become the beginning of the most extraordinary chapter of my life.
As soon as I sent it, the overthinker in me took over, my heart raced. “What if she didn’t like the message?” “What if I caught her on a bad day?” “What would she think of me?” “What if she didn’t even want to know me?” The “what-ifs” wouldn’t stop. And then just when I was caught up in my thoughts, her response came. It was simple but magical, her words carried this calming energy that drew me in and made me want to keep talking, It felt different.
That same day, we had our first audio and video call. It was unexpected, a little crazy, but the moment I heard her voice, something clicked. Our conversation flowed effortlessly, like two souls reconnecting after years apart. I remember thinking, “How can someone feel like home this quickly?” It was natural, peaceful, like my heart had known hers long before we ever spoke.
From that day on, I looked forward to every conversation with her. There was something about her, the way she spoke, the way she listened, the warmth and light in her words. It felt like I had discovered a missing part of myself. Weeks passed, and our chats grew into something deeper. We laughed like old friends, shared our dreams, our fears, and even the smallest details of our day. Despite the miles between us, the distance never felt like a barrier. If anything, it pulled us closer together. Every call, every message, every shared moment wove an invisible thread that tied our hearts as one.
She became my person, the one I ran to with good news, with bad days, or with nothing at all, simply because hearing her voice brought me peace. Our chat history is so full that scrolling feels like a lifetime, but I wouldn’t trade a single message. Through every conversation, I fell deeper, encouraging her, praying with her, celebrating her wins, it all meant everything to me because she meant everything to me.
Lovely changed me, her love softened me, grounded me, and filled my heart with a joy I never knew before. She makes me feel seen in ways I didn’t think were possible. She is the most beautiful person I know, inside and out, her kindness, her strength, her brilliance, and her compassion amaze me every single day. I am so proud of her, of the woman she is and the life she’s building. She understands me even in silence, she calms the storms in my heart, and she sees me in ways I never knew I needed.
What we share is more than romance, It’s friendship, It’s laughter, It’s faith, It’s respect, It’s the kind of love that feels steady, unwavering, and eternal. She knows when to challenge me, when to comfort me, and when to simply be there. Her love is quiet yet powerful; I feel it in every gesture, every word, every moment.
I found home in her, she is my greatest blessing, my answered prayer, the woman I will keep choosing every single day. I want to hold her hand through every season of life, build a home filled with laughter, faith, and grace, and grow old with her by my side. When I say “I do,” it won’t just be for a day, it will be my promise for a lifetime.
All I’ve known before was love that fades, a spark that burns out. But she changed my story. This love isn’t fleeting, it’s intentional, it’s deep, and it’s real. I love the way she loves me on purpose, with her whole heart. Lovely, you deserve this and so much more. I’ll keep choosing you, forever and ever and always.
I LOVE YOU BABES! ❤️❤️❤️ LET'S DO IT!!!
